In many problems, the problem you have is the solution you need.
The obstacle is the way.
Think about it:
- The person you don’t like in the work, is the person that you should work to build a healthy relationship.
- The project that you don’t want to work in, is the project that you should work.
- A difficult problem that you can’t solve, will unlock the most opportunities if you manage to solve it.
- The mistake that you don’t want to admit, is the mistake that you should fix first.
- The feedback you don’t like, is the feedback that you should carefully consider on.
One of my favorite reading topics is Stoic Philosophy. Ryan Holiday (ex-Growth hacker) released a series of books about Stoic philosophy that is based on principles and lessons from the “fathers” of this philosophy like Zeno, Seneca, Epictetus & Marcus Aurelius.
I’ve read all of those books. All of them are very good (if you are interested in Stoic philosophy though). The one that helped me the most was the “Obstacle is the way”.
Helpful tips from the book:
- Be objective.
- Control your emotions (don’t take it personally).
- Focus on the present.
- Focus on the things you can control.
Why is this important?
Next time you face a difficult situation, try to think if the situation itself is not the problem but the solution. Try to utilize it as a solution to your problem. Did it work?
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PS: This approach won’t solve 100% of your problems, but it can provide you an alternative perspective that can help you find the solution you are looking for.